“When a child deserves your love the least is when they need it most”
Optie is extremely emotional today, the tears just won’t dry up and my thoughts are all over the place. The reason – yesterday’s reunion with our daughter and meeting our granddaughter for the very first time.
We welcomed them as if there had been no estrangement. Our granddaughter is simply gorgeous (all grandparents would say that but she truly is a little honey) and our daughter who always said she did not want children is a wonderful mum. Her partner is a really involved dad, takes nappy changes and child care in his stride.
Little T (LT) is no stranger to the camera and really plays up to it so we were able to get some very good photos. My daughter offered to drop off copies of all the baby pictures to date so it seems she wants us to be involved in our granddaughter’s future.
Like her Mom she has very little hair at nearly one year of age.
This pic really shows what a little character she is.
Making the most of a braaied sparerib.
We asked no questions about the past and she said nothing either so there are still a lot of unanswered questions but my focus is the future.
LT has just started walking and is a happy, confident little girl. She is also cutting teeth but is not grisly with it. We gave her some homemade biltong to chew on and that went down a real treat.
It was bittersweet watching OH with LT, he had the biggest, most genuine smile on his face that I have seen for years. When I think back to his heart attack in January, probably helped on by the ongoing stress of the estrangement and my futile trip to the UK in March to try and see our daughter it was all I could do not to crack up. We both managed to hold it together till they finally left after we had enjoyed a braai together but by then I was physically and emotionally wrecked and just need to crawl into bed, too tired to even talk about the day.
We will see them again before they leave to go back to the UK and hopefully we will now have the privilege of watching LT grow up, even if it is from afar.
To everyone who sent supportive messages for yesterday, a big thank you, I appreciated them all very much.