Extrovert vs Introvert

I identify so closely with these definitions of an introvert. It’s not that I don’t like people, I just prefer them in small doses! I don’t like my personal space invaded too often for too long. I don’t enjoy spending time with shallow people who have nothing interesting to say or people who are just out to impress.

What category do you fall into? Can we define ourselves that simply? My guess is that most of us are a combination of the two with a tendency to lean more towards one than the other.

Extrovert vs introvert


For all the gym bunnies in Blogland

In praise of exercise …

It is well documented that for every mile that you jog, you add one minute to your life. This enables you at 85 years old to spend an additional 5 months in a nursing home at $5000 per month.

The advantage of exercising every day is that you die healthier.

I joined a health club last year, spent about 400 bucks. Haven’t lost a pound. Apparently you have to show up.

I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.

I don’t jog; it makes the ice jump right out of my glass.

I used to watch golf on TV, but my doctor told me that I need more exercise; so now I watch tennis.

If exercise and work pay off in the future, shouldn’t laziness pay off now?

A daily exercise regime never killed anyone, but why chance it?

Isn’t having good health merely the slowest possible way you can die?

The act of banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories an hour.

My grandmother started walking five miles a day when she was 80.
She’s 97 now and we don’t know where the heck she is.

The only reason I would take up jogging is so that I could hear heavy breathing again.

I have to exercise early in the morning before my brain figures out what I’m doing.

I don’t exercise at all. If God meant us to touch our toes, he would have put them further up on our body.

I have flabby thighs, but fortunately my stomach covers them.

If you are going to try cross-country skiing, start with a small country.

Communication crisis

It was a difficult weekend and I am still upset at the way OH is treating me.

Background – OH has a very short attention span. Whenever I think we are having a serious conversation he is easily distracted by a) why the dogs are barking, b) whose car has pulled up next door, c) what’s on television and d) just interrupting me mid sentence to talk about something else or to contradict me without actually knowing what I was going to say.

I find this disrespectful and very irritating. He constantly accuses me of not telling him things but it’s because he just does not bother to listen, not because I have not told him. Sometimes he will ask me the same question 10 times in one day and then take offence when I remind him that he’s asked me that nine times already!

So on Friday evening we had friends around for dinner and every time I opened my mouth to share something he interrupted me or started contradicting me. It really upset me that he behaved this way in front of friends. After they left I told him that I was not happy with the way he had kept interrupting me even though I had asked him politely to stop and once again he took offence. Buggered off to bed and left me with all the cleaning up, a job we always do together. No apology, nothing.
When we go out to eat he is always listening to the conversations around him rather than having a conversation with me. He does not even look at me when I try and talk to him in public.
So for the rest of the weekend I have only spoken when needed and refused to enter into conversations regarding where something is or who had it last, just said “I don’t know” and left it there. He still has not apologised and I am still mad.

In addition to the above when he asks me a question he does not give me more than one second to respond before repeating himself rather loudly. His excuse is that he does not know if I heard him or not. I feel pressurised by this treatment as there is not even time to think about a response before he is raising his voice. Sometimes I might have food in my mouth and am not even permitted to swallow before answering.
But he will take forever to answer a question with the excuse that he is thinking …

I spent my weekend reading and watching television. I also finally sorted out the medicine cabinet and dumped lots of expired medication, a job I have been meaning to get to for ages.

We have been married a long time and generally we are happy but I am finding my tolerance level for this sort of treatment is at an all time low. I am ready to blow – he won’t apologise or even consider that he is being disrespectful.

Are we living in a state of anarchy?

These are the main stories on News 24 today. What depressing reading they make. What does it say about our beautiful country? And how long before we are a completely failed nation? No respect for life, private property, authority, education and a corrupt government run by criminals and fraudsters.

When I read headlines like this I don’t even want to read any further. I just wish I lived somewhere else.

Girl’s attackers ‘drank her blood’

30 minutes ago

The family of a murdered West Rand schoolgirl have told of their horror at hearing that her killers had drunk blood from her body after stabbing her.


28 arrested for hijacking building

30 minutes ago

A group of 28 people who ignored a court order instructing them to leave a building in Jeppestown have been arrested, the Hawks say.


33 arrested for illegal mining

2013-03-06 07:41

The Hawks say 33 men have been arrested for illegal mining at Sibanye Gold Mine on the West Rand after being discovered underground by mine security guards.


Man jailed for hijacking, killing woman

2013-03-06 07:41

A man has been sentenced to life imprisonment after he used a young girl to stop a motorist, whom he then hijacked, robbed and murdered, Eastern Cape police say.


Teen appears for murder of classmate

2013-03-05 20:55

A 15-year-old girl accused of fatally stabbing another teen has appeared in the Randfontein Magistrate’s Court.


5 provinces on textbook shame list

2013-03-05 20:54

Limpopo is not the only province with shortages of textbooks and stationery in schools, the department of basic education has told Parliament.


ACDP: Teacher assault immoral

2013-03-05 22:27

The reported assaults on a Western Cape school teacher were “immoral behaviour”, the ACDP says.


MEC, 5 co-accused get bail in murder case

2013-03-05 22:28

A North West MEC and 5 other suspects accused of murdering ANC official Obuti Chika have been granted bail in the Klerksdorp Magistrate’s Court.


Lightening the Mood

Strangely I am feeling in much better spirits today do I thought I would share some humour for a change.

With apologies to any Catholics that might be offended


Man of the House


There’s nothing more to say really, a woman always has the last word!

And finally my strategy for dealing with the latest work drama




And it gets worse

Just when I thought things could not get any worse, they have …

After learning on Saturday that the board has rejected the agreement reached with their CEO, two people have come out in support of me and one of them has been subjected to a rather threatening backlash as a result. I am appalled at what is happening and more and more I am thinking that the time has come to walk away from the unprofessional and unethical behaviour that is becoming more and more evident.

And then whilst reading that unpleasant exchange I received an email from my daughter informing me that her relationship has broken up and she is now a single mother.  She has shared a lot more with me than she has in a very long time but it is too painful for me to repeat. My heart aches for her and our granddaughter and with our current financial situation I can’t even think of going to visit her. OH does not know this yet because he is out and I am dreading having to tell him. I am afraid for both of us health wise right now.  I don’t know how much more stress I can take.

At the beginning of the year I sent out the following greeting “Happy New Year to all our friends and family. We know not what the year will bring and for the first time I am not wishing for it to be better than last year because every year has its own disappointments, challenges and pleasant surprises. My prayer for us all is that God will grant us the strength and grace to rise to any challenge or upset that may come our way. May you all experience God’s hand and blessing on your lives in 2013.” Here we are just into the third month of the year, I am going to have to keep reminding myself of this prayer


I am shattered, have learnt from by email that the “offer” made to me of a 20% reduction in fee has been rejected by the board. They are sticking to the 60% cut they originally proposed.

Just as I was coming to terms with our reduced budget and how we are going to survive going forward the rug has been whipped out from under my feet again.

I am sick with worry, 20% was manageable, 60% is just not doable. My costs are not going to reduce, I will still have to carry the operating costs and replace equipment if it fails. After expenses and tax I might as well just go and stand on a street corner and beg, from what I have read lately I might be a lot better off.